Esther Perry - Rewriting Survival: Men's Path to Mental Wellbeing HMIO 322

In this powerful episode of Hey Man; It’s Ok, hosts Sky Bridges and licensed therapist Ryan Heapy sit down with Esther Perry, EMDR consultant and author of When Survival Is Killing You, to unpack what men are rarely taught about mental health, trauma, and emotional expression.

Esther helps explain the why behind common mental health tools — from EMDR and mindfulness to nervous system regulation — and why many men struggle to connect with approaches that don’t feel safe or practical. Together, they explore how trauma lives in the body, the overlooked “fight” response in fight-or-flight, and how cultural expectations around masculinity make vulnerability feel uncomfortable — or even threatening.

The conversation also dives into Esther’s unconventional path to becoming a therapist, her work in juvenile detention facilities, and her unique experience providing therapy while living and traveling in an RV. Throughout the episode, the focus stays grounded in compassion, science, and the reality of what men face when they’re told to “open up” without ever being shown how.

This episode is an honest, accessible conversation for men navigating emotional growth, healing from trauma, and learning how to feel without shame.